Imposter Syndrome affects many leaders and high achievers, often lurking in the shadows of great achievements. In my journey as a leadership coach, I have encountered numerous talented individuals who struggle with their inner critic. Today, I would like to unravel this “fraud syndrome”, help you understand what it is, and how we can overcome it, to not just survive but thrive in our professional and personal lives.
What is this "Fraud Syndrome" and what can we do about it?
Imposter syndrome is a psychological pattern where individuals doubt their accomplishments and harbor a fear of being exposed as a 'fraud.' It is not just a fleeting thought but a chronic feeling of self-doubt that persists despite evident success. Surprisingly, it is most common among high achievers who struggle to internalize their success, often attributing it to luck or timing rather than their own skill and effort.
How do you know if you have Imposter Syndrome?
How can you tell if you are experiencing imposter syndrome?
Look out for these signs:
• a persistent belief that you are not as competent as others perceive you to be
• attributing your success to external factors like luck
• a fear that you will not live up to other people’s expectations
• feelings of being undeserving of your position
A simple exercise is to write down your recent achievements (stay factual!) and examine your immediate thoughts about them. Do you credit your skills and hard work, or do you contribute them to external factors?
Do Imposter Syndrome and Perfectionism go hand in hand?
Many who struggle with imposter syndrome are also perfectionists. They set incredibly high standards for themselves, and any small flaw or mistake is seen as evidence of their 'fraudulence.' This perfectionism intensifies their fear of failure and criticism, creating a vicious cycle where they are constantly under pressure to perform at an unrealistic level. Recognizing this link can be the first step in addressing both imposter syndrome and perfectionism.
What is the opposite of Imposter Syndrome?
The antithesis of imposter syndrome is what I like to call 'authentic confidence.' This is not about never feeling doubt or uncertainty; rather, it is about having a realistic assessment of your abilities and contributions. It is acknowledging your strengths and weaknesses and feeling secure in your skills and experiences. Cultivating authentic confidence involves a journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance.
What to say to someone with Imposter Syndrome?
When addressing someone with imposter syndrome, it is crucial to offer support and understanding. Phrases like, 'Your feelings are valid, but don't let them overshadow your achievements,' or 'Remember, it is not just luck, your hard work and skills got you here,' can be affirming. Encouraging them to share their fears and offering a different perspective on their achievements can be immensely helpful.
How can we overcome Imposter Syndrome?
Overcoming imposter syndrome involves a combination of self-reflection, changing thought patterns, and seeking support.
• Start by acknowledging and celebrating your achievements.
• Practice reframing thoughts that attribute your success to external factors.
• Seek feedback from trusted colleagues or a mentor to develop a more realistic assessment of your abilities.
• My personal favorite: working with the affirming acronym GEMO:
Good Enough Move On!
“Remember, this is a process, and seeking professional guidance, like coaching, can be incredibly beneficial."
The following 12” YouTube video of Lisa and Richard Orbe’-Austin offers tips for recognizing triggers and dealing with Imposter Syndrome.
What does Imposter Syndrome feel like?
Imposter syndrome often feels like a constant internal battle. You might feel like a fraud, fearing that others will eventually 'find you out.' It can be accompanied by anxiety, stress, and a persistent sense of inadequacy, despite external evidence of competence.
How do you fix Imposter Syndrome?
To 'fix' imposter syndrome, start by recognizing and challenging your imposter thoughts. Seek to understand the root causes of these feelings. Develop a supportive network that encourages open conversations about failures and successes. Embrace a growth mindset, recognizing that competence comes with experience and learning.
What are the 5 Types of Imposter Syndrome?
The five types of imposter syndrome, as identified by psychologists are:
• The Perfectionist, who is never satisfied with their work;
• Superwoman or Superman, who pushes themselves to work harder than those around them;
• The Natural Genius, who feels ashamed when they struggle to learn something quickly;
• The Soloist, who prefers to work alone and views asking for help as a sign of weakness;
• The Expert, who is always trying to learn more and never feels like they know enough.
Do I have Imposter Syndrome or am I just “not good enough”?
It is important to differentiate between imposter syndrome and genuine skill gaps. If you consistently receive positive feedback and results but still feel fraudulent, you are likely experiencing imposter syndrome. However, if there are areas where you need improvement, acknowledge them as opportunities for growth rather than as evidence of incompetence and seek the help you need. Remember, having areas to improve does not make you a fraud.
"As we have explored, Imposter Syndrome is a complex but surmountable challenge. Recognizing the signs and understanding its dynamics are the first steps toward overcoming it. Remember, the journey to overcoming imposter syndrome is about building a balanced and realistic self-view, not about never experiencing doubt. If you are struggling with these feelings, know that you are not alone and that support is available.
As a leadership coach, I am here to guide you through this journey, helping you to not only recognize your true worth but to confidently stand in it. I am a senior Leadership and Executive coach specialized in helping leaders and executives enhance their executive presence and generate more connection and possibility. If you feel this is the right time for you to explore what could be, do get in touch with me as your aspiration is my mission."
